So here are all the details on how things went....
First, we had sent out an email to our family to invite them over Friday night where we would find out the baby's gender all at the same time.
As our way for everyone to find out the gender at the same time, we decided to give everyone a cupcake and we'd bite into it and see if it was pink or blue filling, indicating if girl or boy. Everyone is puzzled how we did this, so I'll explain all the steps.
1. So my sister kindly came over Thursday night and we baked cupcakes. Since Dustin does not like chocolate, we made 2 kinds-- Chocolate and Carrot Cake.
2. After they were baked and cooled, we took a sharp knife and just cute a round hole in the center of each one about halfway down to the bottom. We scooped out this cake, while still leaving it somewhat in tact (you'll use it later to plug back in the hole).
3. We had mixed pink and blue icings/fillings-- a whipped cream mixture for the chocolate cakes and cream cheese icing for the carrot cake. I spooned this filling into the holes-- I filled 12 with pink and 12 with blue. You can then plug the whole with the cake you had just cut out...and it's amazing how you can't even tell that there was a hole ever cut! So keep track separately of which ones had the pink vs. blue.
4. We then iced the tops-- chocolate fudge on the chocolates and cream cheese on the carrot cake.
5. I had 2 identical containers, so we loaded pink fillings into one and blue fillings into the other, then labeled what was in each one and put that in an envelope taped on top. (So at this point they looked identical and I had no clue what was in which container.)
6. We had the doctor's office put whether it was a girl or boy in an envelope and did not look at it.
7. We asked some girls in our building to look in the envelope and if it was a girl, then put it with the container labeled girl....if it was a boy, then put it with the container labeled boy. We would then serve and eat from the container she told us to. (So basically you just need a neighbor or any outside person to look at your result and assign it to the right cupcakes).
So we went to the appointment Friday afternoon and they did the anatomy check where they make sure the bone structure looks good and the organs are functioning/developing properly. We were very fortunate that everything went well there, so that was a huge sigh of relief. We told the technician that we did NOT want to know the gender. However, she was scanning all over the place for this anatomy scan, so it was making me nervous that we were both watching the screen that we were going to be able to tell the gender! There were a few times she was showing us profiles or down by the legs (and I am awful at reading the machine), but I swore to God that I could make out male parts. So then I started looking away cause I really didn't want to know...but Dustin had his eyes glued to the monitor the whole time. So at the end she turns the screen from us to do a printout for us and write on there if it's a girl or boy. We leave the appointment and as we are in the elevator we both look at each and say at the same time- I think it was boy based on what I saw! I think Dustin could see the panic in me cause I had my heart set on a girl, so he tried back-peddling then saying we aren't experts at reading the machine, etc. But I felt like I just knew. So all afternoon I was able to kinda prepare myself for the fact there was like 99% chance now it was a boy....but still had that hope it was still a girl!
It's now close to arrival time for our guests, so I go put on my brightest pink shirt convincing myself that I probably don't know what I saw earlier. My sister arrives in her pink and I'm psyched. Then everyone decides to show up wearing freaking blue, except my step-MIL who showed some girl support! I start having this feeling like I'd rather just not bite into the cupcake and I think- 'I'll just wait until delivery and see what comes out...I'd just rather not know.' Except now I got all these people here, so pretty much have to follow through!
So here we are pre-cupake bite (minus dustin's brother who is taking the picture and can see our nephew roaming the background):
Ready, Set, GO!
And for the record, I did have an immediate smile on my face (but the picture is blurry) after looking at my cupcake and discovering this:
Slightly forced smile here...
But then I think-- hey, there is still a chance that the girl screwed up the instructions and we bit into the wrong cupcakes, so I better check the official paper from the doctor. Crossing my fingers......and nope, the doctor says it's a boy too!
It's crazy cause at the beginning I really didn't care if it was a girl or boy and thought- I'm not going to be one those greedy people who really wants one over the other...those people should just be happy and thankful they have a healthy baby on the way. But as the months went on, I just wanted a girl more and more. These last few weeks, I just had my heart set on a girl and really, really, really thought that we would have a girl, so this was a bit of a shock. Dustin has the WORST luck of anyone...and so now for one of the most important things in our lives, he finally hits his good luck and gets a boy! I know in the end I will be 110% happy and never think twice that I wish it was a girl, but I will admit that I had a hard time accepting it this weekend. Let's just say there were tears on Friday after everyone left....and more tears the next morning.
Even though we plan to have more kids and could have a girl later, I think I just loved the relationship I had with my sister, so wanted to pass that on and have daughters....so was just hard accepting that it will not happen. I reminisce about my sister and I making up dance routines together, playing school, playing beauty shop, being in the same sorority, etc. And I just wanted to pass on that same experience...which I know in reality I could have 2 girls that are complete opposites and don't do anything together....but is just the vision I had. So like I said, just hard for me to accept that my kids will not be able to duplicate all my happiness and will have their own version...which for all I know could be better than what I had!
And then I started thinking what if our next child is a boy, I'm going to feel outnumbered and alone cause they will all be watching sports and doing boy things, etc. I can hardly stand to be home on football Sundays with 1 male screaming at the tv....what will I do with more now!! Which I also know is crazy cause for all we know we could end up with a boy who is more interested in tap dancing then sports! So you really just never know and they will ultimately decide their own interests and futures.
So poor Dustin got a double-dose of crazy from me this weekend, let's just leave it at that!
I am excited though to start looking at names for the little guy and I began looking at nursery pictures this weekend to get some ideas. These next months will be busy, but I am excited to meet this little person and I'm sure I will look back on this and be like- My goodness Gus, you need to lay off the crazy pills, cause you have the cutest son ever that is WAY less drama than raising some girl!
